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Good stuff from TheGirl. She speaks from the heart and I generally agree with about ten percent of what she’s saying. And then I re-read it. Roughly fifty percent. A third read…I begin to disagree.

Hugh Paxton’s Blog reckons this makes her a good thinker, a thought provoker, and when I’m in London in August I shall invite her for a pub crawl.

Perhaps she can interview me. And , should she permit, I will interview her. We’ll see what happens! But before this dramatic encounter and meeting of minds have a look at her latest! Of course she can’t change the world! My beloved wife and I, and colleagues at UNDP and GEF are doing that! UNEP too! The NGOs. WCS – brilliant! I can’t mention them all. There are tens of thousands of men and women slogging through red tape or forests fighting violent criminal poaching gangs and horrible corrupt business interests and sleazy pirates. It isn’t easy. Nothing is.

But if TheGIrl stops trying to change the world then that’s one less piston in the engine for a happier planet. This said, if she wants to enjoy life I’d strongly suggest forgetting about it for a while, snuggling up against somebody warm, drinking too much wine and watching silly movies while nibbling olives, crisps, toast and Bovril, finger snacks, cups of tea…

I tried that with my daughter. Scary Movie 4. We just laughed – The Grudge bits are particularly funny – and procrastinated and who gave a damn about Panama? We didn’t. Then the movie stopped. Annabel tried to prolong the moment by bringing up Scary Movie 1 (vulgar) Scary Movie 2 (coarse) Scary Movie 3 (infantile and not funny) then Scary Movie 5. Less said about that the better! It was a sad moment but we both knew it. Prevarication was over.

Time to do something useful. Although I can’t think of anything more worthwhile than sharing a couch with my daughter watching a Japanese demon having a fight in a bath while eating toast and letting the world get on. But duty pulls us!

As it does TheGirl!

Read on!

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Waiting for Tomorrow

by TheGirl

I came to the realization this week that I’m not going to be able to solve the world’s problems, and that most problems are very complex.

Surprise!

I’ve worked in politics and grassroots advocacy for fairer housing, health, and education policies in New York City; but it’s nothing like doing so in developing countries. Silly me for even trying. So now I have a literature review due this week, and all the ideas in my head are roaming, but I lack the energy to put them into coherent sentences on paper.

In other words, I’m procrastinating.

I love and hate deadlines: they keep things on track, but I don’t necessarily get a rush having to do things under pressure at the eleventh hour, although I have to admit some bright ideas do come out at the eleventh hour.

So knowing me I set some early deadlines to get started this weekend, and I swear I’ll get started once I finish this post. I know I’m not the only one who seems to wait until the last minute for things, so I wanted to find out from other folks what their experiences are and how they cope.

New Attitude

If I can wake up every morning with this attitude, it would help me move forward items/projects. I mean hey, no one expected Rome to be built in a day — so it’s very feasible to take things one step at a time each day. But it has to be everyday, otherwise the night before the deadline will feel like running a marathon. So, I’m going to go back to list-making. I love writing things down and having a to-do list where I can cross-off items, helps me feel organize.

When I’m in my mindset — I can cross through an entire list within a couple hours– "Oh hey! Its lunchtime already"? This usually means that all the problems, worries, things to-do were not that big or time-consuming to deal with. I already started by adding key to-do things on my calendar this week. I live and die by my online calendar as it sends reminders to my phone/laptop/email. So once you adopt this new attitude, figure out a system that helps you to take baby steps everyday!

*Tip* Be specific. There’s a different between "I’ll start my report tomorrow" vs " I’ll outline my three main points over lunch".

Stuff Keeps Coming Up

The story of our lives. Even the most mundane life that is centered around Star Wars and and Comic Con will have something interrupt and demand for our precious time. Well procrastinators — let’s be honest, how much of these "really important things" are you looking rather than issues that come out of the blue? Don’t tell me you were about to sit down in front of the computer– when all of sudden– you noticed how dirty the top of your cupboards were and needed to take a half-hour to address that immediately.

The truth is, we all have things that come up: family, work, emergencies, friends, enemies, mini-crises, drama, terrors, and tragedies. Especially the later, sometimes when life hits you– it makes you feel like you just don’t want to "deal". This weekend’s tragedy in Florida is a perfect example of this.

Unfortunately, everyone will have at least one problem/event everyday whether it is a single mother living in rural South Sudan or a wealthy banker living in London. All of our daily struggles are different but real; however we must persevere on! Deal, grieve, solve, or mediate with your family, tragedy, emergency, in-laws…then return to the drawing board.

I’m Not Good Enough

At the risk of sounding like a psychotherapist– this can be the crux of the matter for many procrastinators. We think, dwell, ponder, formulate, redraw, overthink, cry, breakdown, and manage to put something together at the final hour that everyone loves and applauds.

This is an emotionally taxing cycle to have to endure in any work/school lifestyle. We worry about the results not being perfect, and spend days or weeks stressing and feeling guilty for putting things off (I have even done this for months). Unfortunately, I don’t have any straight-forward advice about this except to say that we are all our own worst critics. So let’s be kinder to ourselves; the next time you start something or cross off an item on your list, congratulate yourself! Congratulate yourself everyday whether its with a little social media time, a drink at the pub, or even some ice cream (well, maybe not ice cream everyday…). The point is, you have adopted a new attitude and renewed your motivation to finish a project– today you laid the foundation and tomorrow you’ll be putting up the frame.

Hi, my name is S.C Rhyne and I am a procrastinator. About 1 in 5 people are chronic procrastinators, so I know I’m not alone. So how do you cope with the many things in life that you need to get done?

Tell me on Facebook or twitter, or you can even post it on my Google Plus page!

TheGirl | June 12, 2016 at 1:43 pm | Tags: advice, inspiration, moving forward, procrastination, procrastinator, self-esteem | Categories: Musings and Life | URL: http://wp.me/p2MqP7-Hq

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2 Responses to “The ReporterandTheGirl : New post Waiting for Tomorrow”

  1. TheGirl Says:

    Very well said Hugh, I too had to curl up in front of a movie last night, but I picked the worst, Charlie St. Cloud. It made me remember my world-saving problems even more! But now I’m back to the drawing board.

    • Hugh Paxton Says:

      I think I’ll skip that one! Try The Railway Children. It’s a bit soppy, but utterly relaxing. Well, not relaxng, but no guns, no bad language, a sort of time travel back into the days of my mother’s England. If you get emotional you might need a hanky. The movie is uplifting! Curl up TheGirl and think steam trains younth and times past! Cheers! Hugh

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